How to become a grown-up in 468 easy(ish) steps.

Step 324: If someone calls you out for saying something shitty …

Just own up to it. Seriously. Don’t freak out, don’t spend time trying to justify whatever you just said. And, HINT: the more of an urge you feel to justify what you just said, the greater the chance that it was indeed very shitty and this is your way of coping with your own shame.

Say, “Wow, you’re right. I’m really sorry, and thank you for letting me know that.” Then, don’t say that shitty thing again. 

24th Jun 2014 2,398 notes , Comments

A gentle Monday PSA

I’ve had to remind myself of this five times today. 

16th Jun 2014 895 notes , Comments

“I’m currently worth more dead (with my life insurance policy) …

… than alive (with my student loan debt).”

Here’s my take on the incredible Tumblr Q&A with President Obama. Student loans and college tuition are just impossibly difficult questions with very, very few answers.

The tl;dr — college should be way more affordable. Loan interest rates should be way more reasonable. Unfortunately, it seems like neither of those things are going to happen in the short term.

So at the very least, high school students should be super informed before they make college choices and take on huge debt loads. Financial literacy must become a component of every high school education. Not all of us are going to use calculus; every single one of us has to know how money works. 

Thanks again to the incredible Tumblr staff and David Karp for making this event happen. 

12th Jun 2014 460 notes , Comments

You have until midnight tonight …

… to ask the President a question about student loans, higher education, debt — really, anything.* Go, go, go!

In the meantime, I’m packing for DC, following this pre-trip checklist, and feeling infinitely grateful that a reader gave me this brilliant tip a few years back:

When you make your trip packing list, be sure to save it on your Google Drive (or cloud storage of choice). Label where you are going and how long you’re going to be there. Then, the next time you need to make a packing list, just open that one and modify as necessary. 

* I feel like to accurately represent the tumblr demographic, at least one question should be about whether or not the President ships.

8th Jun 2014 117 notes , Comments
staff:

Maybe you’ve just started to pursue a higher education. Maybe you’ve spent your adult life paying off debt from school. Either way, you’ve probably got questions about why college costs so much, what can be done about it, and if it’s even worth doing in the first place.
You should ask those questions to the President of the United States.
On Tuesday, June 10, our Founder/CEO, David, will head down to Washington to host a live conversation about education with President Obama. David will ask your questions. The President will answer them, out of his mouth, in front of the world.
(The White House will also be picking out a few question-askers to join us in person. If having the President’s ear isn’t enough, maybe standing on his carpet is.)
Submit your questions by midnight on Sunday, June 8. Then tune in to the White House Tumblr on Tuesday, June 10. See you in DC!

I’m incredibly honored to be a part of this. Please, please submit your questions.

staff:

Maybe you’ve just started to pursue a higher education. Maybe you’ve spent your adult life paying off debt from school. Either way, you’ve probably got questions about why college costs so much, what can be done about it, and if it’s even worth doing in the first place.

You should ask those questions to the President of the United States.

On Tuesday, June 10, our Founder/CEO, David, will head down to Washington to host a live conversation about education with President Obama. David will ask your questions. The President will answer them, out of his mouth, in front of the world.

(The White House will also be picking out a few question-askers to join us in person. If having the President’s ear isn’t enough, maybe standing on his carpet is.)

Submit your questions by midnight on Sunday, June 8. Then tune in to the White House Tumblr on Tuesday, June 10. See you in DC!

I’m incredibly honored to be a part of this. Please, please submit your questions.

7th Jun 2014 19,458 notes , Comments

Everyone does their best. Even though some people’s best is really shitty.

—My GrannyBarb’s mantra

16th May 2014 2,280 notes , Comments

Adult purchase of the day: this keyring!

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absolutely love this keyring because it anthropomorphizes the need to have a place where my keys always are. Mine’s name is Marie Antoinette Lady Bird Sparrow and as soon as I get home she goes in her lovely home where she is safe and sound and easily find-able. (Available here for $5 USD)

25th Mar 2014 1,452 notes , Comments

Step 323: You can’t love something you need

If you need someone — how they make you feel, what they do for you, how they keep you whole — then you don’t actually love them, you just love the role they play in your life. The further you can push away from that need, the closer you’ll get to loving the human.

(This is an idea from Joko Beck’s Everyday Zen, which I *highly highly highly* recommend for anxious and/or ADD types, but this is true for everyone.)

24th Mar 2014 1,596 notes , Comments

Step 322: Have a Pouch of Responsibility inside your purse

Inside a clear, zippered pouch goes the following: Three tampons, a pack of gum, Kleenex, some hand-sanitizer, safety pins, bobby pins if you need them, a few band-aids and ibuprofen. Then, when minor crisis looms, you can shout (inside your head) “TO THE RESPONSIBILITY POUCH!”

Special thanks to Anna for the suggestion!

17th Mar 2014 2,379 notes , Comments

Step 321: You don’t have to have feelings *about* your feelings

Angry? Sad? Lonely? Ashamed? Maliciously gleeful? All of those are OK ways to feel and you don’t have to spend extra time and emotional energy berating yourself for feeling them. That is not productive.

14th Mar 2014 2,019 notes , Comments